(Note: due to time constraints on speeches at the conference, I was not able to deliver the entire speech. The bold text at the end was not delivered to the conference.)
Im sure some of you are frustrated by
the fact that this issue will not die. You may think that this
is because popular culture has embraced the gay community, but
thats not the main reason. Some of you might think it is
because liberal theologians have taken over the church, but whether
that claim is true or not, it is certainly not the reason this
issue keeps coming up. No, in order to figure out why we havent
put this behind us, we have to look inside. We have to look at
ourselves.
I thought about asking everyone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual,
or transgender, or who has a GLBT family member to stand. Im
not going to do that, but what if I did? What if I asked you to
stand if you have a GLBT parent or child, grandparent or grandchild,
brother, sister, niece or nephew? How many people do you think
would be standing? How many more would stand if no one was in
denial about the issue, or if their GLBT kids werent still
in the closet? Would anyone still be seated?
Once you get a picture in your mind of this whole congregation
standing, you begin to understand why this issue will not go away
until the churchs position changes. We havent found
a way to stop having gay kids. We embrace our kids when they are
born and we love them into the church as we ought to do. But for
some of themfor some of them, when they start to discover
who they are we tell them they are not enough. We tell them they
are defective because they dont love the right way. Some
of you will argue that Im overstating the message we send.
But you must think of how the message is heard, and not how it
is sent. When we tell a kid who wants nothing more in life than
to serve the church that she must choose between her sexuality
and the priesthood, the message she hears is that she is defective.
When we tell a committed couple that their love is no good in
our church, what they hear is that God doesnt have a place
for them. These are our children. We can continue pushing our
children away, but we cannot push this issue away, because with
each years baby blessings we know at least some of them
will eventually have to face the question Why not me? Why
is there not room in the church for me?